Hello Peeps! It’s been a minute hasn’t it? But I have a very good reason why I haven’t blogged in a while. I’ve been a busy gal writing a book! Yah, a book!  

Writing a book is something that I have always dreamed of doing.  What I found while I was going through the whole process is that it takes quite a bit of self-confidence to write and self-publish a book. The good kind of self-confidence – not the obnoxious kind.

Confidence is something that is harder to succeed in attaining than it is to just say you want to possess. And this process gave me the opportunity to test my own confidence level. The actual writing of the book was amazing. Putting it out into the world to be read…..and then judged – NOT SO MUCH!

After I had finished the book, I had to put my heart where my mouth was and just go for it! I have to say that I have received many wonderful compliments from those who did read my book. Some said that they liked it. And some said that they loved it. WHEW!

But back to the confidence thingy. We have to go out on a limb……no matter how high the limb is or how fragile ‘it’ seems to be, if we truly want to have the confidence in ourselves that we say that we do.

This includes not minding if someone doesn’t like it, or you, or how you believe, or whatever there may be that could rattle you. You notice that I said ‘not minding’ instead of not CARING. That’s because I feel they are very different emotions. Not caring means you don’t give a flip what others say or think of you. At least that is what you say out loud in the loudest bravado you can muster. But not ‘minding’ means that you don’t let any negative statements about you get into you MIND. As the saying goes, a ship doesn’t sink from the water AROUND it…….it only sinks if the water gets IN it.

This is the same with what we allow to penetrate our peace of mind. We can only be ‘hurt’ by another’s harsh words and criticism if we let it get into our mind.  Hence the reference to not MIND-ing. And if we don’t take anything personally, we can remain steadfast in our confidence and feelings of self-worth.

When we do allow what someone thinks or says bother us, as they try to hurt us, we are allowing the other person’s insecurities to intrude into our mind. Because it does take an insecure person to blatantly try to hurt someone else. And that just doesn’t make good sense. To me anyway!

So, keep your head up and forge ahead with something that you want to do that may be scaring you to pieces. Let the chips fall where they may. If you really want to possess the bold confidence that you say you do…..this is a good beginning. And Hip, Hip, Hooray for you!

Ta, Ta for now!  Scoot now……you can do it. Goms is pulling for you!

This is the link to my book BTW.


https://www.amazon.com/Awakening-Through-Loves-Losses-Laughter-ebook/dp/B07GTZNFVG

Hugs and Mush, Gommy

Shakespeare was more spiritual than I ever gave him credit for being.This quote takes on a different meaning for me these days.

Make your life an epic production. All the while remembering that you can edit any part you don’t wish it to be.

This is so because we are the producer, director, scriptwriter, AND actors, all rolled into one.

                                                                Hugs and Mush, Gommy 

As I was reading Gary Zukav’s Seat of the Soul, he described a concept that I have struggled with before. It’s the concept of being ONE.  It is hard to wrap our human minds around this concept and one of my quandaries has always been that we often hear of ‘Old Souls’, which points to time and age, and if we are ONE, wouldn’t we all be the same age? Gary used the analogy of the Ocean to explain.

Imagine the ocean. The ocean is whole, but if we take a cup of water out of the ocean, then we have a separated piece of the ocean. That cup of ocean water may be taken from New York or Florida or North Carolina or Hawaii, so the experience of that cup of water will be different because the shore that it came from is of different experiences.

When we think of it this way, we can see how we can be individual AND one with the “All That Is”. The life or age of that particular and separated cup of water will begin on the day that it was taken out of the ocean. This explains the age of the ‘cup of ocean water’ being a different ‘age’ than the ocean. That cup of water will experience different situations than the ocean as it makes its way around new surroundings.

We can then also understand that each of the separate droplets of water are what make up the whole ocean.

It might be easier to be kind to each other when we can see that we are also all part of the one human whole. I hope this helps others to maybe understand this very important message.

Have a great Friday Peeps!

Hugs and Mush, Gommy

Hello Boys and Girls. It’s been a while since I’ve written on my blog. Ever since Facebook, I’ve written my thoughts on that site. But I felt compelled to look at my Gommy’s Goodies this morning and thought I’d share a thought or two with you.

We find ourselves in a weird, weird sort of time these days. There are so many people who are lying and now we even have something called Fake News, where things are purposely made up to sway how we think. It’s scary times that we are living in right now boys and girls and we have to keep on our toes so that we don’t get duped. Or duped even more than we have been lately.

Dealing with a pathological anything is very tricky. A pathological liar, narcissist, or anything that falls under the personality disorder that includes pathological, is suffering on some level, from an instability and a lack insight that doesn’t involve them.

I guess I am a bit over-sensitive to lying because I was brought up by a mother who detested lying. I never found out why she hated lying  as much as she did, but I remember her always saying – “You can trust a thief more than a liar because you can see someone stealing, but you can’t tell when they are lying.”  Truth was very important to my Mom and she handed down it down to me.

The scariest thing about a PL is that they think they are telling the truth.  The most important thing to remember about a PL is that they lack empathy as well. This is mainly because the PL doesn’t think how their lie will affect anyone else because they only think of themselves.

Once trust is lost, it’s almost impossible to get it back. But the PL doesn’t think this far either. So, my only suggestion in dealing with a PL is to know the person and once you do know someone really well, it will become very apparent that they are known not only to stretch the truth, but that they rarely ever tell the truth. And on the occasion that they may be saying something truthful, they won’t be believed – much like the little boy who cried wolf in the fairy tale that we all remember from our childhood.

The next time you feel it’s necessary to tell a lie, check yourself because even if you aren’t a PL, it’s a slippery slope because you will have to tell another lie after the first one because one lie leads to another lie to cover up the first lie and on and on and on. That’s another thing my Mom told me – “You have to have a perfect memory to be a liar, or you’ll get caught every time!”

Remember always that Honesty is ALWAYS the Best Policy my friends!

Hugs and Mush, Gommy    

WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE???

Hello Boys and Girls and Happy New Year! It IS that time of year when we look back on what we did and didn't accomplish in the year....and on any mistakes we might have made....or on feeling good about the really good things we may have done. And hope that we made a difference....a good difference in the lives of those who mean the most to us.

As I was having me a little look back and making sure the reflection I was seeing was really what I thought I was seeing, I took out my trusty 'Bible' (Eckhart Tolles' A New Earth) and let the book open wherever it wanted to open. I always think that whatever I am looking for will be revealed to me in that way.  Welllll, it opened up to the Chapter on, 'Finding Who You Truly Are'. Hmmmmmm.....that's a pretty good thing to reflect on..... [I sez to myself]. So here's what ET had to say about WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?.

~"The world always makes sure that you cannot fool yourself for long about who you really think you are, by showing you what truly matters to you. How you react to people and situations, especially when challenges arise, is the best indicator of how deeply you know yourself.

The more limited, the more narrowly egoic the view of yourself... the more you will see, focus on, and react to the egoic limitations of the unconsciousness in others. Their 'faults' or what you perceive as their faults become their identity to you. This means you will see only the ego in them and thus strengthen the ego in yourself. Instead of looking 'through' the ego in others....you are look 'at' the ego. Who is looking at the ego? The ego in you...that's who.

Very unconscious people experience their own ego through its reflection in others. When you realize that what you react to in others....is also in you....(and sometimes only in you)...you begin to become aware of your own ego, i.e. what makes you tick-(Gommy added that 'what makes you tick' part). At that stage, you may also realize that you were doing to others...what you thought others were doing to you. You cease seeing yourself as a victim."~

WOW....that is some reflection now, ain't it? The very thing that aggravates me about someone else is a reflection of something in me. Now, most people would never admit that....and that is the reason we have as many whacka-dos in the world as we do. So many people who hold onto their beliefs in 'xyz' with a death grip....because they identify so strongly with their belief in 'xyz'....that they don't know what or who they would be without it. And THAT my friends is fear related....which causes all pain and suffering.

ET also said....."Nobody can tell you who you are. It would just be another concept, so it would not change you. Who you are requires no belief. In fact....every belief is an obstacle. It does not even require your realization, since you are already who you are. BUT....without 'realization'.....who you are does not shine forth into this world. It remains in the unmanifested, which is, of course, your true 'home'. You are then like an apparently poor person who does not know he has a bank account with $100 Million in it and so his wealth remains an unexpressed potential."

Hey, I'm a millionaire.....many times over. And so are you peeps. You can just walk into your 'bank of all potential' and withdraw any amount you need. But start with being honest about who you think you are....cuz if you keep telling yourself a pack of lies.....you won't get anywhere and you might become one of those whacka dos I was talking about. You can do it!!!! Gommy is pulling for ya'. Hugs and Mush, and a VERY Happy New Year to one and all!!! Gommy

Hello everyone! It has been a sad week with the murders of the little children and teachers in Connecticut. Something went terribly wrong.  Especially at this time of year, when we are 'supposed' to be filled with joy, love and good tidings toward all. Instead, it made me think how very little we know about what is in our own.....or our loved ones future on any given day.

It also brought me back to the day my own children were taken from me. They were older (17 and 22)....but your children will always be your babies....no matter how old they are. I can remember the shock and deep, agonizing pain I felt the moment I heard they were gone. To a parent, there is nothing in the world and no other pain that can match that helpless and nauseating feeling. Every memory of every event or occasion that you ever shared together comes flooding back to you in an instant. It  must be likened to the way we are told our own life comes back to us when we die.  And while you are remembering.....there is a mix of pure joy from the memories....and a deep stabbing in your heart at the same time... at the realization that you will never share new memories with them again.

As I watched the unfolding of this terrible sadness....I heard people saying things like....what must these parents be feeling? I do know what these families are feeling.  And I feel deeply for the families that are facing that pain right now. If they are like I was....they are still in a state of shock. The shock  and numbness you feel is [thankfully] with you all the while you are making decisions like; choosing their coffins.....the clothing they will wear in that coffin....the details you want at the funeral home.....choosing the flowers you want on their coffins.  Then you look for pictures that you will share (in my case, it was for the newspaper so they could report the accident). Then you are inundated with telephone calls by friends and family who just want to tell you they are thinking of you....but all you really want to do is roll up in a ball and make it go away. But it doesn't go away. It really never fully goes away. But you learn to 'live with it' and try not to let their passing define you in a way that is not honoring their memory. You try to not be bitter....or mad.....or not go on with your own life. But it is a process....and these parents have a long way to go before they get to the other side of this nightmare.



There are no answers either but you do look and look for an answer. I searched different churches, synagogues.....anywhere I thought would 'give me THE answer' I was looking for. For me, I found that we won't ultimately 'know' the answer....until we meet with our loved ones again some day.

There is no escaping or no guarantees that something horrid won't happen in your lifetime either. We all have the false belief that,  'It can't happen to us...not in our town....not to us or our children.'. But it CAN happen. Any where...any town....to any one. But to live in fear that it might happen....is to give up the time and the precious days we DO have with our loved ones. If anything good ever can come out of such pain and suffering....it is that we are jolted into remembering just how much our loved ones DO mean to us. It makes us hug them a little longer.....tell them how much they do mean to us....and it makes us appreciate and be grateful for another day we get to be with them.

So, tell the people in your life how much they mean to you. Do it every day....because tomorrow is not promised to us. Live today. Live in the NOW! Now is all we are completely sure of. You can do it. Gommy is pulling for you. Hugs and Mush and lots of Love, Gommy

Hello Boys and Girls. It’s been a while since I have written on my blog…but I feel compelled to speak to a subject that is weighing heavily on me today. For personal reasons, I won't say why this particular day is so integral to the topic of truth, but it does seem to be jumping out at me and egging me on to speak about it.  So I will.

It is 11:11 AM as I begin to write this….which is an ‘aha’ for me as well. But it started when I woke up and turned on my computer and went to Facebook, as I usually do each morning.  A friend had posted a quote by Warren Buffet that said, “Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’t expect it from cheap people.” We can think of the word ‘cheap’ as stingy or we can think of it as not having much worth. Either description is not a very good one to have on your character list.

The thing about being true to yourself is that it is the only way to be able to live in contentment and have peace of mind in knowing that you are doing what is right.  I am a firm believer that as long as we do the right thing, everything will turn out right in the end. That isn’t to say that we don’t all make mistakes in our lives. We do. But we must face the fact that we have made a mistake, be contrite about it, and ask forgiveness for what we did. But when a person does something very wrong….and acts as if they didn’t do it….then I cannot be around someone like that and act as if it didn't happen as well. It would feel as if I were being disloyal to my own conscience and somehow being complicit in the deed.

I am married to one of the most admirable, giving, loyal and honest persons I have ever had the privilege of knowing. He stands up for what he believes in and never waivers. Sadly, you don’t find that many people with those qualities in the world anymore.  Most people ride the wave or go with whatever is more comfortable for them in a sticky situation. It takes great character to do what is right….when others are not willing to face the truth. You can even be shunned for doing the right thing. But nothing is worth losing your own self-respect in the trade, just to be liked or welcomed. It’s like selling your soul to the Devil. You may be living large right now….but the smallness you feel about yourself is always there, nagging at you.

Then, a little later in the morning, I was watching a taped segment of The Katie show. She had Dr. Phil on as a guest and he said something that goes perfectly with this subject. And when he said it…..I just knew it was another signal that I had to write about it in my blog.  He said,  “Winners deal with the truth….good, bad or indifferent.” I would add that there may be times when you have to withhold something, so as not to hurt an innocent person.....but that is the rare exception. I am speaking to blatant lies and lack of integrity today.

Living and dealing with the truth is not always easy. But to be a ‘winner in life’ you must be truthful.....at all times. Lying to yourself is pretty silly, because you really do know the truth and if you can lie to yourself…then you can certainly lie to everyone else you come in contact with. My mother always said, “You can watch a thief….but not a liar.”  You can lock stuff up so that a thief can’t get to it…..but a liar is harder to watch. But the good news is that eventually the truth will come out. That has always stuck with me throughout my life.

So, the moral of this blog today is to be honest. It may not always be easy…but it will always turn out for the good and you will feel like the winner you are. I promise!!! You can do it boys and girls….don’t let the Haters and the Baiters change you from being a winner into a loser. Gommy is pulling for you! Hugs and Mush, Gommy